HIJAB.

Assalam Aleikum wa rahmatu Allah wa barakatouh my dear sister

I am here to talk to you my dear sister who is unable to wear the Hijab or who wears it in a stylish way with lots of makeup and tight clothes.  May be you are finding it difficult because you are in a society which objectifies women and you feel you will not look beautiful with the hijaab. May be you feel if you wear it people will look at you in a strange way or will mistreat you. May be you are thinking to wear it when you get slightly older, you are still young and you want to enjoy life. May be your parent or your husband is putting pressure on you not to wear it. May be you think even if I am not wearing it right and I have so much makeup on and tight clothes, at least I am wearing it unlike others who don’t wear it completely so don’t judge me.

Before I start telling you so much which you already know, I want to ask you one question my dear sister. Are you a Muslim?
If Yes, do you know the meaning of Islam? (And I am not being sarcastic here, it is a genuine question) Many of us may not know the proper answer to this question. Being born into Islam does not mean I must know everything but it means I must educate myself and find out.

Islam means to completely submit to the will of Allah. Complete submission means you have no say and no otherwise. If Allah says you must pray then you must and if he says you must fast then you have no choice other than that. If he says you must wear the hijab and you must wear it properly then who are you to have a say in this?

Let me give you an example; when your parents say you must do so and so, you never dare say No to them, not because you fear them but because you love and respect them and you know they only want what is good for you. Even if you don’t understand you follow. You may ask why but in the end you follow. WliLLAH Al Mathalul A’la. How can you take the chance and the risk to stand up to Allah and tell him No I am not going to do what you are asking me to do? Can you really handle this statement my dear sister?  Do you have the power to do that?

Despite all the reasons you could come up with in order to justify why you are not wearing it, you will never be able to justify it believe me. ….Why?
Because Allah created us and he knows what is best for us. He knows that you will go through all those reasons and excuses in life and yet He commanded you to cover.
 So if you say I feel I am not going to look beautiful, I will tell you what will your looks do for you 20 years from now?

If you say I don’t want people to mistreat me or look at me strangely, I would tell you did you forget the words of your beloved Prophet peace be upon him when he said: Be mindful of Allah, and Allah will protect you. Be mindful of Allah, and you will find Him in front of you. If you ask, ask of Allah; if you seek help, seek help of Allah. Know that if the Nation were to gather together to benefit you with anything, it would benefit you only with something that Allah had already prescribed for you, and that if they gather together to harm you with anything, they would harm you only with something Allah had already prescribed for you. The pens have been lifted and the pages have dried."

Your beloved Prophet went through so much hardship to bring you this beautiful religion and you cannot take a simple sacrifice!!? Remember the meaning of Islam, Are you a true Muslim or you just don’t care? Think about it….. before it is too late.

If you say I am still young, I will tell you death does not only visit old people.

If you say at least Im wearing it even if I have makeup and tight clothes, I will tell you, fear Allah, you are taking a beautiful value from Allah and corrupting it under the name of fashion. Can you take the responsibility of this?  Can you stand up to Allah and answer when He asks you: Why you were the reason to misguide many Muslim girls? Why you were the reason to give a wrong image about Islam? Can you take this responsibility my dear sister?

Allah knows what’s in your heart and if you sincerely want to wear the Hijab, just go on sujoud cry and tell him to help you. None of us is able to do any act of obedience on their own, we can only do it if we truly want and with the blessings of Allah. Take the step my dear sister, I know you can and Allah will help you. Being a Muslim woman is a great honor, you represent your religion everywhere you go, you carry the flag of Islam on your head proudly and you tell people I am the Khalifa of Allah on this earth and I will do everything in my power to please him

Allah says: يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ قُل لِّأَزْوَاجِكَ وَبَنَاتِكَ وَنِسَاء الْمُؤْمِنِينَ يُدْنِينَ عَلَيْهِنَّ مِن جَلَابِيبِهِنَّ ذَلِكَ أَدْنَى أَن يُعْرَفْنَ فَلَا يُؤْذَيْنَ وَكَانَ اللَّهُ غَفُورًا رَّحِيمًا / الاحزاب/59

What can be translated as: O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies (i.e.screen themselves completely except the eyes or one eye to see the way). That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allah is Ever OftForgiving, Most Merciful. 33:59

Can you see the honor Allah is giving you when he addresses you at the same level of the mothers of the believers and the daughters of the Prophet peace be upon him when we have not done half of what they did for this deen.  Wake up my dear sister before it is too late

When Giving Sadaqa.( What not to do)

Assalam Alikum wa rahmatu Allah wa barakatouh
Many of us have the habit of asking the poor to pray for us after giving them our sadaqa. Do you know that our mother Aisha may Allah be pleased with her used to hate that!! Why?
Allah says in surat Al Insaan what can be translated as: And they give food in spite of love for it to the needy, the orphan, and the captive,76:8

Meaning even the captive who comes to kill you and you hold them captive, you must feed them.
Then Allah continues in the following ayah saying what can be translated as: "We feed you only for the countenance of Allah . We wish not from you reward or gratitude.76:9
Meaning we do not wish from you any reward (like Dua’a) or gratitude (A thank you). So when you give sadaqa do not ask the poor person to pray for you, this is a very important matter my dear sister and brother and if you have been doing it, you must stop.
Our mother Aisha may Allah be pleased with her used to send the messengers with sadaqaat (money as charity) to different locations and when the messengers come back, she used to ask them, what did they pray for me? The messengers would say, they prayed for you such and such, she will say I will pray for them the same so the reward remains with Allah!! Why is that?
Because when the poor person prays for you, they have already rewarded you for your kindness and good deed!.
So for example If I gave a poor person $20 and told them: “ pray for me to be cured, and pray for my children and my husband” this means if this person prays for me then they have already rewarded me. The question, is this the reward I was looking for?
That is why Allah said in the above ayah: "We feed you only for the countenance of Allah . We wish not from you reward or gratitude.76:9
So when you give that sadaqa, you give it for the sake of Allah and Allah will reward you for it and you and I know that no human can reward us better than the Most Generous Subhanahu wa Ta’alah
If the poor person prayed for you without you asking that is fine but you do not give a $50 and say please pray for me to get married, get a job, have children…etc.
Give the sadaqa. What do you want? Nothing, “We wish not from you reward or gratitude.76:9”
Sadly, many of us do not realize this. We give and say do not forget to pray for me.

Give the sadaqa and the reward is from Allah, if the poor person prayed for you, that’s fine and if they didn’t then the reward remains with Allah.

Al Man'n

Assalam Aleikum wa rahmatu Allah wa barakatuhu

I want to cover today a very fatal mistake most of us fall into. We commit it because we do not know the gravity of it and what will it cost us!!!
I know that you and I always try to strive to help others and do good so that we can get the reward for those deeds but some of us lose all the reward by doing a very simple action.. Sometimes we do this action without thinking……what is it?
It is what we call in Arabic Al Man’n
Al Man’n means, giving something to the person then saying: I gave you, or telling someone I did this and that for you and look at how you are paying me?!! Phrases like this which many of us use especially when someone hurts you after you being good to them.
Allah says:
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لا تُبْطِلُوا صَدَقَاتِكُمْ بِالْمَنِّ وَالْأَذَى كَالَّذِي يُنْفِقُ مَالَهُ رِئَاءَ النَّاسِ وَلا يُؤْمِنُ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الْآخِرِ فَمَثَلُهُ كَمَثَلِ صَفْوَانٍ عَلَيْهِ تُرَابٌ فَأَصَابَهُ وَابِلٌ فَتَرَكَهُ صَلْداً لا يَقْدِرُونَ عَلَى شَيْءٍ مِمَّا كَسَبُوا وَاللَّهُ لا يَهْدِي الْقَوْمَ الْكَافِرِينَ) (البقرة:264)
Translation:
O you who have believed, do not invalidate your charities with reminders or injury as does one who spends his wealth [only] to be seen by the people and does not believe in Allah and the Last Day. His example is like that of a [large] smooth stone upon which is dust and is hit by a downpour that leaves it bare. They are unable [to keep] anything of what they have earned. And Allah does not guide the disbelieving people. 2:264
The minute you utter that word my dear sister and brother, you have lost all the deeds you did for that person no matter how big or many they are. This is very common with us, especially with our families and friends. When we do good to someone, we say: I did this and that and I gave them and look at how they are treating me ??!!
Why my dear sister and brother? Why waste all your efforts and your deeds? Look back into your life and see how many deeds you have wasted by committing Man’n?
Let me ask you; Who are you giving?
You need to understand that when you give, you are giving Allah from the provisions of Allah!!!
When you give something, you are not giving it to the person, but your sadaqa or your charity falls on the hands of Allah first before it falls on the hands of the needy so have manners with Allah and look at how you are giving!! When you did what you did, did you do it for the sake of Allah or because you expected a pay back in return?
The Prophet peace be upon him said:
وعن أبي ذر رضي الله عنه عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: " ثلاثة لا يكلمهم الله يوم القيامة ولا ينظر إليهم، ولا يزكيهم ولهم عذاب أليم" قال: فقرأها رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ثلاث مرار. قال أبو ذر: خابوا وخسروا من هم يا رسول الله؟ قال: المسبل، والمنان، والمنفق سلعته بالحلف الكاذب" ((رواه مسلم)).
Translation:
Abi Thar may Allah pleased with him said, the Prophet peace be upon him said: There are three types of people to whom Allah (swt ) will not speak and neither will he bless them and for them is a severe torment” Abu thar said : The Prophet peace be upon him repeated it three times. I said: They are the losers Oh Messenger of Allah, who are they? The Prophet peace be upon him said: The Musbil (the man who lets his garment too long on the floor, The mannan (the one who gives and reminds those he gave) and the one who swears lying to sell his product. (Narrated Muslim)
Man’n is even worse when it is done to a relative or a family member, like a brother or a cousin or an uncle…etc.
You say: I did this and that for them and look at what they did to me or you say I covered for them and they exposed me and other phrases similar to this, disclosing the good you did.
The minute you open your mouth and say what you did, you should know that everything you did is down the drain and you simply got nothing from it. You might even suffer from it on the Day of Judgment as per the above hadith. So be careful my dear sister and brother, this is a big deal. Control your tongue and watch out what you say. One word could cost you a great amount of good deed and might make Allah angry with you.
Do good for the sake of Allah and hide it as much as you can because you only expect the reward from Allah and not from any human being.
The Prophet peace be upon him exaggerated in the hadith when he said your left hand should not know what your right hand has given!! This was to emphasis on the importance of hiding your good deeds and your charity.
May Allah grant us tawfeeq (success) to do good for others and avoid Man’n